Transitions

I've been leading a rather "stable" existence these days. Stable - meaning no huge upheavals of happiness or sadness. The days just drift past without much of an event. I'm beginning to wonder if I should ask for a little less stability? And yet, maybe leading a "stable" life is somewhat happiness in itself? I'm not sure.

Two girl friends are currently moving into a state of transition. In the midst of my stable life, I am drawn into the transitions that they are currently experiencing.

S has just found the love of her life. After two years of acquaintance and several episodes of painful roller coaster action, she is finally hitched a fortnight ago to someone she has been dreaming of. In fact, they are already planning for their life together. Perhaps when love strikes, it strikes as lightning would - in a flash. The fact that I was somewhat unfortunately drawn into the roller coaster ride sometime ago means that while I am happy for my girl friend for her new-found happiness, I am almost certain that our friendship will eventually end. She says I must be her bridesmaid and I will keep my fingers crossed.

A has been married for over a year and like most married girl friends, she hardly has time for girl friends. I received an sms from her yesterday, asking me out for dinner. Although it was a nice gesture, I knew that something was amiss. We had our girl-to-girl chit chat over korean food and yummy ice cream and she spilled it all out that she suspects her husband has another woman. Having met her husband, I tried to reassure her that there could be other reasons why he has been staying out late and encourage her to take her mind off it and focus on other things.

This morning, I got an sms from her that her hunch was right and I froze. She sounded cool on sms and I wonder if she is really fine. She said she needed time to ponder and she will try her best to make sense of things. I don't know if I am more shocked than her but I am truly shocked and somewhat sad for her. I don't know what I can do for her and could only tell her that I'll be here for her if she needs to talk.

I'm not sure if stability is a bad thing afterall. I may feel a little numb from my stability but stability is perhaps a protection against pain. Maybe what someone told me about a stable life is right afterall and I will perhaps learn to enjoy it a little while it lasts.