The Push and Pull factor

After abstinence from Salsa for about 3 months, I've got my salsa high again last Friday at Cuba Libre. It was so easy to get high on salsa even without alcohol, and it's absolutely true....trust me! It's like the adrenaline rush from a rollercoaster ride and I've got to attribute this great enjoyment to the chemistry when you dance with your dance partner.

It took me some time to realise that how much you enjoy a dance is very much dependent on the flow between the two dancers, and that is the "push and pull factor". That is the chemistry between the two dancers through the correct use of tension, when the lead pulls and push with the right tension and the follower takes the cue and respond with the same tension. With that you'll find that there is a smooth flow and the result is like two persons on a merry go round but neither will fall off it because the tension is just right!

And it is really rare to find chemistry between dancers, I can only name a handful of dancers with whom I have this chemistry with. Whether it is skillful dance techniques or the ability to read and respond to a fellow dancer's action and reaction I know not, afteralll, I am the follower.

This strange chemistry is also akin to the relationship between people, when you give and take in the correct amounts. When you give and take an equal amount, there is a nice equilibrium in the relationship; but when one gives or takes too much, trouble begins as the imbalance in the relationship triggers the danger button.

It is such a delicate equilibrium and one that is very much highly dependent on individuals but one may just get better at it as they adjust the balance in response to the other party, like how dancing more often with a partner may just eventually improve the chemistry between them. Hopefully if chemistry does not always come naturally, it will at least work this way.